Some of the greatest lessons I've learned have come from people who didn't like me or my work.
Back in 2017, I signed a coaching contract to work with a group of women in Sacramento who wanted to create a ministry around an anthology they wanted to publish.
I was truly excited about this project, because it was the first major one that I felt could catapult my business in the region. I wanted other ministry leaders to witness the impact of my teaching on Christian Writerpreneurship and book publishing; and I knew this contract would be the one to open the doors.
Prior to this new assignment, I had received a word from the Lord regarding my need to fulfill my vow. The Holy Spirit shared with a fellow prophet that I was called to empower women publicly, and that I needed to begin working on that message soon.
Little did I know this specific message would come only after experiencing another major setback.
During one of my group coaching sessions with the women, the gifts of the Spirit were in full operation. I began "reading the women's mail" and ministering to them based on the word of wisdom and knowledge I received.
That meeting was supposed to last for three hours; but it quickly turned into a six-hour "camp meeting."
The women were thoroughly impressed, not by my works but by the ministry that went forth. And as can be expected, whenever the Spirit of the Lord is moving, the enemy will come to snatch that word and that experience.
Days after the meeting, the woman spearheading the project called me. She wanted to talk to me about something one of the other women found on the Internet about me. In other words, she wanted to talk to me about my criminal case and to find out if the story was true.
Now, at the time, I hadn't thought much about the matter. I was so focused on building my business that the last thing I wanted to address was that issue. But I obliged as much as a I could, and told her that no, those stories were not accurate; and while I was arrested, the charges against me were dropped.
Apparently, that wasn't enough information for her and some of the women; and they practically demanded I give them more details or risk losing the contract. For the first time in years, I could feel that old "oppressive" spirit trying to control me again. It was that same spirit that said, "If you don't do what I want, I will hurt you." That's essentially I how I felt when this new contract began to turn.
Rather than wasting my time going through the mental anguish that I had spent years overcoming, I decided to cancel the contract and move on. Many of the women were distraught about my decision; but I basically told them if they can't learn to see me through the eyes of the Spirit and to assess my character based on the information I've already supplied, then I'm not the coach for them.
Ironically, it was through this interaction that The Holy Ghost and You Ministry emerged. It was through this encounter that I learned the true meaning of the ministry of reconciliation and why it is so important to master before anyone ever considers becoming a minister of the faith.
The Ministry of Reconciliation Centers on Revival
You may recall from a previous lesson that I focus much of my ministry on revival and national reformation. I do so because we must be ready for this great outpouring that will sweep the nation; and we must be diligent about our part so we don't watch it die.
The more I began studying revival, the more I realized much of its previous demise had a lot to do with the way the Body of Christ treated one another.
For example, the great Azusa Street revivals of the early 1900s were crushed, not because Satan was so powerful, but because many of the leaders became disgruntled. There were fractions in the rank; and when one person took away Seymour's mailing list, which comprised of 50,000 names and addresses, this crippled his ability to communicate with the masses, and news about the movement ceased.
Here's another example: During the Brownsville Revivals of the 1980s, fractions dealing with finances curtailed the movement.
Again, it all boiled down to the way people treated one another.
During my time in Sacramento, CA, I witnessed this first-hand. I knew God brought me to that group of women to empower them, because I could see many of them operating in their own ministries, if they were willing to put in the work.
And just as quickly as that movement began, it died, because a couple of the women could not see themselves receiving from a leader and coach who had such a scandalous story.
Forget all the evidence I had to prove my truth. Forget the fact the Spirit of the Lord validated my meeting with signs and wonders. All they could see was what media wrote about me eight years ago. (I would tell you some of the things they said towards me, but it might anger you.)
It was in the midst of that chaos that the Holy Spirit revealed to me the lesson on the ministry of reconciliation. Here's how Paul described it:
Our firm decision is to work from this focused center: One man died for everyone. That puts everyone in the same boat. He included everyone in his death so that everyone could also be included in his life, a resurrection life, a far better life than people ever lived on their own.
The ministry of reconciliation is at the heart of revival.
It requires that we cease in evaluating people based on what they have or don't have. It demands that we give people a fresh start, even as Christ has given us one.
When this lesson first came to me, I presented this same teaching to the woman who led the project.
I asked, "What if all those media stories were true? What if I had done everything people said I did? Am I less qualified now--eight years later--to walk in this grace that was given to me by the Holy Spirit?"
I tell you, the overall response from the group wasn't positive, because they felt they had a RIGHT to know all the details of my case, even more than what I had already shared. Their behavior was such a major turnoff to me and my associate that I wanted nothing more to do with the project.
I mentioned to them that if they ever wanted to engage in raw ministry, they needed to be prepared to deal with women who have far worse stories than mine.
If they can't handle my truth -- and I'm the one being sent to empower them! -- how will they expect strangers to come to them, asking them for ministry?
Believers Fail to Make an Impact because They Don't Practice the Ministry of Reconciliation
Failure to practice the ministry of reconciliation has caused many people to turn away from the faith.
Many Christians -- like the religious leaders of old -- expect every leader to have a squeaky-clean past or present. They can't handle people like David or Joseph or even Yeshua. They see such leaders as being frauds who couldn't possibly know what it means to be holy.
Because of this attitude, many Believers refuse to walk in their grace and calling, worried about the criticism of others. They don't want to step into the light for fear of how people may judge their past.
Only a handful of Believers are willing to confront that fear and to embrace their calling with boldness and confidence.
Even I struggled to re-emerge in the limelight, not because I had something of which to be ashamed, but because I knew the general public was never really interested in the truth. (Media are extremely powerful in shaping people's views.)
Now imagine someone whose faith is not as strong. Why would she ever want to share her truth with people who can't handle the stories of their leaders?
Not many Believers are willing to pay the price to be great. Not many can do like Yeshua, who "endured the cross, despising the shame" (Hebrews 12:2); and because most Believers don't know how to discern between their right and left ear, they make rash judgments about folks whom God has anointed to equip them.
Now, this level of criticism within the Body of Christ certainly isn't an excuse for any Believer who is too afraid to carry out her mission and assignment.
But how much more effective would we be in changing the systems of this world if every Believer practiced the ministry of reconciliation?
The Accuser of the Brethren isn't Just Satan...It's Fellow Believers
As I began studying this lesson more, I realized the greatest threat to the Church was not the devil. After all, Yeshua promised, "the gates (or powers) of hell would not prevail against the Church" (See Matthew 16:18).
What, then, is hindering the Body from actively leading in the earth's affairs?
The answer: the Body.
Far too often, Believers position themselves as the accuser of their own brethren. They attack and persecute fellow Christians who are on the front lines of ministry. Most of the time, they do so because of ignorance.
For example, the women who resisted me did not know they were holding up their own blessing. They didn't see their behavior as posing a threat to the Kingdom work that could have manifested through them had they just stopped and listened to the Holy Spirit.
Now, I want to make something clear here: I am not teaching anything that goes contrary to Truth. I am not telling any Believer to allow another Believer to live in sin.
Keep everything in context.
When Believers want to bring up stories from people's past -- incidents that happened years and years ago -- and they want to use those stories AGAINST another Believer to stifle the work of ministry, then those Believers are in serious error.
And when such Believers decide to use their words to bring down another person, then they stand in the way of Kingdom progress, not just in their own lives but also in the lives of others.
Accusing one another in the Body of Christ is not without its consequences. The law of sowing and reaping is always in effect. If I position myself to judge one of my clients' stories inaccurately, causing her to stumble, my business and ministry will fail. Why? Because no one wants to work with someone like that.
But if I practice the same type of ministry that I want others to use with me, then the law of sowing and reaping works in my favor.
The same principle applies to any new minister of the faith.
Discerning between Correction and Open Condemnation among Believers
Now, you may wonder how the ministry of reconciliation allows for fellow Believers to correct one another in love.
This, too, requires spiritual discernment and an ability to listen to the Holy Spirit.
I want you to recall the story of Job. The Bible begins his tale by informing us that he was a righteous man, blameless in God's eyes. The Scriptures then proceed to tell us that the Father presented Job's name at a meeting with the angels. He asked Satan, "Have you considered Job, that there is none like him in the earth" (Job 1:8).
After such encounter, Satan attacked Job, destroying everything he built.
What's interesting to note here is the response Job received from his friends after calamity struck. His friends didn't encourage him or help him. They criticized him and demanded he repent to God so his fortune could be returned.
I remember back in 2011, just months after my case began. Everyone and their mother wanted to know what happened, especially because the news stations blasted me. My father instructed the members of his congregation not to question me about anything because it was a legal matter; but that didn't stop one saint from doing what she wanted.
One day, while at home, the lady called me to inquire about my case. She told me that if I just repented and acknowledged all the wrong I did (to her, in essence), then the Lord would defend me and help me.
That woman pissed me off so much, I could hardly refrain myself from cussing her out. (I'm keeping it real, Beloved!) I explained to her that I wouldn't be telling anyone, especially her, the details of my case unless they had the power to help me. What that woman wanted was not for me to be delivered from my trouble, but for her curiosity to be satisfied.
And the same scenario is what Job experienced.
You see, in the eyes of others, our public calamity and misfortune are viewed as evidence of God's wrath and punishment against us. And when such things happen openly, the assumption is that person must have really angered the Lord.
Such thinking is far beneath God's reality, and here's why.
God is ABBA. He is a father, a loving one at that. When it comes to correcting His own, His first reaction isn't to publicly embarrass His child, because He knows it will turn that person completely away.
Let me illustrate this further: As a mother, I deeply love Aaliyah. In public, she is a well-groomed, obedient, and pleasant to others. She's this way because I train and discipline her, not publicly, but privately. My love for her restrains me from causing her shame and embarrassment. And if I, being a mere mortal with all my flaws, can demonstrate such love to her, then ABBA demonstrates this on a higher level.
Even when Aaliyah does something wrong in public, I speak to her (firmly) but within close proximity because I don't want to shame her. More importantly, I don't want anyone else to hear me reprimand her. I'm more concerned with our long-term relationship, and being the one person who constantly bashes her publicly will ruin her self-esteem.
There's more: At no time in the Scriptures will you read about the Lord publicly correcting His own...that is unless the private corrections have not worked. Whenever Yeshua wanted to correct His disciples, He did so within their own sphere. He taught the mysteries of the Kingdom in private. He corrected Peter and the others in private.
The only time He addressed people's errors publicly was when He observed such religious folks standing in the way of people receiving God's grace.
In fact, Yeshua provided clear instructions on how we ought to handle disagreements or sinful offenses among each other:
If a fellow believer hurts you, go and tell him—work it out between the two of you. If he listens, you’ve made a friend. If he won’t listen, take one or two others along so that the presence of witnesses will keep things honest, and try again. If he still won’t listen, tell the church. If he won’t listen to the church, you’ll have to start over from scratch, confront him with the need for repentance, and offer again God’s forgiving love. (Matthew 18:15-17 MSG)
ABBA did not need to publicly blast Job in order to get him to repent of anything; and yet that's exactly what his non-discerning friends demanded of him. Something else was going on behind-the-scenes, and it wasn't until much later that Job and his friends were made privy to it.
ABBA did not need to publicly blast Felecia in order to get her to repent for raping all her male students. Such behavior never occurred, and yet that's exactly what Believers wanted to me do. They didn't want to hear my truth; they wanted me to repent for an offense that I did not commit. When I refused to do so, they were bothered and felt I was haughty and deserving of my calamity.
Time has proven since my case that something else was going on behind-the-scenes; yet too few Believers could make such a connection because they judged the matter based on their own limited understanding.
But this is not how the Father corrects His children.
Take note: All correction is given to strengthen and empower a person. Correction comes as a method to put us on the right track. Correction is a part of training; and ABBA has a way of working this out.
There is order in God's Kingdom. Yahweh will appoint spiritual fathers and mothers who have been given the spiritual right to train and equip certain Believers. For example, I do not receive correction from everyone calling himself a leader. I only take correction from about 4 leaders who have proven their love towards me. In essence, I've given them permission to speak into my life because I know they have what I need to increase.
Anyone else who attempts to correct me immediately gets the smack down. (My clap back can be fierce!) I instantly reject their correction, not because I think they are beneath me, but because they haven't been given authorization to impart into my life. No matter how many Scriptures they quote to me, I will not receive from them because they aren't my spiritual leaders. In my eyes, they can't take me beyond where they presently are.
In like manner, those who have been given the authority to speak into your life also maintain the right to correct you when you're wrong. You are opened to such correction because you trust them; and when such chastening occurs, don't think for once ABBA has to publicly blast you in order to fix you.
A child who is sensitive to a parent's love will not require public humiliation in order to turn back to God.
Beloved, I am revealing to you a deeper understanding of God's love and training.
And this is the message I want to hit home: When Believers step out of order and misjudge people based on their own set of beliefs, this poses a huge threat to the Kingdom's expansion; and God will not allow such behavior to stop what He wants to do in the earth.
This is why it's so important to know the Holy Spirit and to be intimately acquainted with His gifts, especially discernment, for then we will learn to practice the ministry of reconciliation.
When People Come to Your Ministry, They Will Have Far Worse Stories Than Mine. How Will You Handle Them?
Losing that contract hit me pretty hard. While I had the choice to give into their demands, I wasn't willing to sacrifice my mental health to satisfy their curiosity; and that's important for you to consider as well, Beloved.
As your ministry begins and increases, DO NOT force your followers to tell you the details of their lives, especially when such memories may cause mental trauma.
Be sensitive to the Holy Spirit and to the people God will bring your way.
There will be people who come to your ministry with far worse stories than mine. They will tell you about the time their father and mother raped them; or about the time they were kidnapped by satanists; or about the time they aborted their baby during the third-trimester.
What are you going to do with such stories? How will you respond to the people whose lives are so different than yours? Will you be prepared to effectively minister to such individuals so they come to walk in their calling and purpose? Or will you misjudge their situation and reject the power that's working in them simply because you don't like their story?
After winning my case in 2013, I assumed my next assignment was to fight for teachers' rights; but it wasn't the case. The Holy Spirit led me towards equipping more women for the work of ministry, because He knew that before any major revival took place, the leaders had to be prepared to receive the worst of sinners.
If we can't handle the stories of our fellow Brothers and Sisters in Christ, how then can we manage those whose lives have literally come from gross darkness? Can you look at that 13-year-old prostitute and see a Queen Esther? Can you see that battered woman and observe a Deborah laying dormant inside her?
Do you have the capacity to see people through the eyes of the Spirit, affording them the same fresh start that you would want to have?
I hope so, for this will be the true test to determine if you can be trusted with a ministry as vast as you desire.
Leaders who don't practice the ministry of reconciliation will be held liable if the people who come to them eventually walk away from the faith and the calling.
We are leaders, Beloved. We are responsible for the people who come to us.
Unless we learn how to operate according the Spirit; unless we begin to see people currently as God sees them; and unless we routinely minister that vision to them until they embrace it themselves; then we are not ready for pure, raw ministry. We will simply fail in our assignment as fellow ministers.
I cannot emphasize enough how serious the ministry or reconciliation is to the Lord. We must not be a stumbling block to the least of these. The compassion Yeshua had for the lost must also be among us.
If we can master this principle, then we will witness the greatest revival this nation has ever seen; and if you would like to learn more about developing into a dynamic leader and minister, I want you to connect with me and my team of coaches inside The Holy Ghost and You Ministry.
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